I live in a pretty small “out of town” city. There are not that many single girls here, but it happens to be that I'm the “least frum” (I don’t pin my shirt to my chin, wear black tights everyday- even in July, I'm looking for a working boy, and I'm not a 8th grade chumash teacher) out of all the ones that are left. I'm still pretty close with a few girls, but it’s definitely a noted point among everyone. More than once I've declined invitations to events or activities because they're just things I'm not interested in.
Tonight at our weekly Wednesday night shiur (which hopefully I’ll have time to write about later), the speaker was going on and on about this whole mishmeres thing that “we” are all doing and how it’s so nice, and its such ahavas yisroel to daven for someone else, and it’s cleansing our mouths so that our tefillos can go straight to Hashem. And how it’s so nice that for 2 hours everyday, we watch what we say… and on and on and on. I was totally lost. I was like huh? What mishmeres thing?
After the shiur was over, I asked one of my friends what she was talking about. My friend was like, “oh yea, I wondered why you weren’t on the list.” She told me that girls take on 2 hours a day to not speak loshon hora, in the zchus of a different girl every 2 weeks to get married.
And apparently ALL the post seminary girls were doing it. But they didn’t ask me. Did they think I wouldn’t be interested in not speaking loshon hora for 2 hours a day? And how come no one is not speaking loshon hora for MY zchus to get married?!
I know I can be sensitive sometimes, but seriously, in a community this small, with so few girls, you don’t just FORGET about someone.
I'm working on not taking it personally.
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4 comments:
yes, you are quite the shiksa.
(j/k!!!!)
how come id get yelled at when id decline these nush things??? :-P
and i may be married but i have ur name in my siddur!
"I don’t pin my shirt to my chin, wear black tights everyday- even in July, I'm looking for a working boy, and I'm not a 8th grade chumash teacher) out of all the ones that are left. I'm still pretty close with a few girls,"
Its official. I like your style. You do your thing and make no apologies for it.
Those fake frummies can shove their mishmeres where the sun shines.
stamazoid: thanks! :-)
and like i said before to u- LOVEEEE the new name!!!!!
jacob: thank you! but it happens to be, that all those frummies that live here are very real! so i cant even dislike them ;-P
I'm the same as you in that regard, that I thought of myself as less frum than my classmates because of those things. But I learned that those aren't what determines frumness.
I don't know why they wouldn't include you. perhaps it was a mistake? Did you go over after and asked to be added to the list?
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